"My response to the “I am not a feminist” internet phenomenon….
First of all, it’s clear you don’t know what feminism is. But I’m not going to explain it to you. You can google it. To quote an old friend, “I’m not the feminist babysitter.”
But here is what I think you should know.
You’re insulting every woman who was forcibly restrained in a jail cell with a feeding tube down her throat for your right to vote, less than 100 years ago.
You’re degrading every woman who has accessed a rape crisis center, which wouldn’t exist without the feminist movement.
You’re undermining every woman who fought to make marital rape a crime (it was legal until 1993).
You’re spitting on the legacy of every woman who fought for women to be allowed to own property (1848). For the abolition of slavery and the rise of the labor union. For the right to divorce. For women to be allowed to have access to birth control (Comstock laws). For middle and upper class women to be allowed to work outside the home (poor women have always worked outside the home). To make domestic violence a crime in the US (It is very much legal in many parts of the world). To make workplace sexual harassment a crime.
In short, you know not what you speak of. You reap the rewards of these women’s sacrifices every day of your life. When you grin with your cutsey sign about how you’re not a feminist, you ignorantly spit on the sacred struggle of the past 200 years. You bite the hand that has fed you freedom, safety, and a voice.
In short, kiss my ass, you ignorant little jerks.”
My friend insists bi means two and I'm only attracted to the binary genders and it's transphobic idk what else to say??
Tell them that by their logic lesbians are from the Isle of Lesbos, gay people are really happy people, heterosexual means attracted to different genders (that is more than one) because it comes from the Greek “heteros” meaning “different” or “other”.
Then tell them that both heterosexuals and homosexuals are transphobic because they are only attracted to genders within the gender binary (which isn’t even necessarily true btw) and that only pansexuals cannot be transphobic because they are attracted to everything, including innanimate objects and philosophical concepts, I mean everything means EVERYTHING you’re not a real pansexual otherwise!
Then say that transphobic is the literal fear of trans people and we should be kind because they can’t help having a phobia, it’s not like it’s a system of oppression that trans people that is composed of more than etymology, that would silly and counterproductive!
And finally tell them that pineapples are apples that grow on pine trees because words are literal and never change over time or with context.
Then take a dictionary, burn it in front of them and chant “where is your word god now?!”*
*Last part is optional and should not be done in an enclosed space.
I remember when I very first played Garak, I played him gay! I thought this would be great! He sees this young man, this young, very attractive doctor on the station, he is lonely, he is the only Cardassian there, this doctor is curious about him, and if you remember, this was a great moment because Sid totally went with it! When he comes up and he puts his hand on his shoulder, Sid did this great thing, it was this sort of an electrical charge that went through him and so I played him totally gay in that episode.
Of course the producers did not actually tell me not to play him gay but then they started writing him a little more macho and more like a Cardassian. But I said, “Listen, one of the great things about Garak is that he is not Gul Dukat, he is not one of those macho, militaristic guys, he is your finesse Cardassian.” So we struck a compromise but I was always very clear. I did not get into it in the book. Quite frankly, I was going to go in that direction. I had written a whole thing about Garak’s sexuality because I felt that Garak was sort of - talk about bisexual, I think that he was multisexual, essentially that anything that moves is fair game for Garak. He has a voracious sexual appetite.
I spent the whole How to Train Your Dragon 2 movie waiting for Chief Astrid.
Don’t get me wrong: I loved the power of earned loyalty message, and Hiccup learning to find his father’s strength in his bones as well as his mother’s wild empathy, and I spent most of the movie either delighted or…
I resent that. I was not and am not hard to live with “sometimes”. That should at least be “often”, or more accurately “usually” or even “always”. If you’re going to answer these things, do it accurately ;)
“Tampons were packed with their strings connecting them, like a strip of sausages, so they wouldn’t float away. Engineers asked Ride, “Is 100 the right number?” She would be in space for a week. “That would not be the right number,” she told them. At every turn, her difference was made clear to her. When it was announced Ride had been named to a space flight mission, her shuttle commander, Bob Crippen, who became a lifelong friend and colleague, introduced her as “undoubtedly the prettiest member of the crew.” At another press event, a reporter asked Ride how she would react to a problem on the shuttle: “Do you weep?””—
“You painted a naked woman because you enjoyed looking at her, put a mirror in her hand and you called the painting “Vanity,” thus morally condemning the woman whose nakedness you had depicted for you own pleasure.”—
John BergerWays of Seeing
#it’s okay to follow creepshots but when a celebrity’s nudes are leaked she’s a slut #it’s perfectly normal to watch objectifying porn but when a woman decides to film herself having sex she’s a whore #it’s alright for you to harass women on the street but when they approach you first it’s arrogance #it’s cool for you to fantasize about a woman who’s out of your league but when a woman you deem unattractive likes you you’re disgusted #no don’t worry you can make female bodies public property but when they discuss your masturbation habits you can be offended
when im a parent i won’t take my kid’s electronics when they get in trouble i’ll just take the charger so i can watch the fear in their eyes as they use it less and less while the battery slowly begins to run out
Floki bounces out of nowhere and he’s this gangly Skarsgardian fuck with a fucking tree on his face and he’s wearing six tons of guyliner and telling the future and talking to trees and Bjorn’s twelve-year-old ass is completely unfazed and that is why they are my two favorite characters on this show
“The fervor surrounding trigger warnings … makes it seem like it’s not possible to survive a triggering experience intact. It treats us like we must be protected or we’ll be further traumatized, like we’re broken and we can’t be dropped again and hope to be glued back together. But that’s a wrong way of thinking about trauma: Trauma doesn’t break people. It changes us, and it changes the way we have to operate, and sometimes we feel broken because we can’t go back to the way things were before the trauma occurred, but it essentially boils down to having to cultivate a new self-awareness and new habits. That isn’t so bad. The way to help a traumatized person isn’t to try to pad them from reality, it’s to be patient, understanding, consistent and predictable.”—
I agree with everything said. That’s the general idea of Trigger Warnings: They make things a little more predictable. A trigger warning is not meant to make posts inaccessible for people who experienced trauma. It’s not meant to stop discussion of triggering things. It’s meant to give people who are triggered by certain things to take a deep breath and steel themselves before diving into a discussion, etc. Or to decide that at this point in time, they are not up for that particular thing. Should it be overdone? No. Should it make people feel like they are broken and need training wheels for the world? Hell no. But trauma means that there is a special vulnerability - and every person is vulnerable, trauma or no - that needs to be acknowledged.